Respect of a Muslim

Respect of relatives All relatives should be treated nicely. Sayyiduna Aasim  narrates that the Messenger of Allah said, 'Whoever wants an increase in his sustenance, increase in life and riddance from a horrible death, should fear Allah  and be helpful & kind towards his relatives.' (mustadrak, Hadith 7280, V4, P97, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut) The beloved of Allah  said, 'The one who breaks relations will not enter Heaven.' (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 5984, V7, P95, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) Reconcile with relatives Dear Islamic Brothers! Those people should be afraid who frequently break relations with relatives on small matters. Such people should approach their relatives with humbleness in order to reconcile even if it wasn't their fault. However, if there is a Shari' reason which is stopping you from reconciling with them then you should refrain from doing so. With the blessings of travelling in the Madani Qafilay every month and by filling in the Madani In'aamaat card and handing it in to the zimadaar at the end of every Islamic month, In'shaa-Allah , for the sake of the Beloved , the enthusiasm for respecting Muslims will develop in your heart and you will reconcile with all of your family & relatives who will become associated with the Madani environment of Dawat-e-Islami – In'shaa-Allah . Excellence of touching the head of an orphan  A young boy or girl whose father has passed away is known as an orphan. As soon the boy or a girl becomes mature (baaligh), they are no longer considered an orphan. There is great reward for treating the orphans with kindness. The mercy to the universe, the Beloved of Allah  said, 'Whoever touches the head of an orphan for the pleasure of Allah , in place of each hair his hand went over, he will receive good deeds and me and himwill be together like this (put two fingers together) in Heaven.' (Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 22215, V8, P272, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) Touching the head of an orphan and providing food to the poor removes hard-heartedness & insensitivity. If you are going to touch the head of an orphan, the Sunnah method of doing this is to bring the hand from the back of the head to the front and the father of a child will bring his hand from the front of the head to the back. (mu'jam al-awsat lil-Tabaraani, Hadith 1279, V1, P351, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) Created from a crooked rib A husband should treat his wife nicely and deal with her wisely. Our Holy Prophet  said, 'A woman has been created from a rib and you cannot straighten her. If you wish to draw benefit from her, you can do so from her crookedness. If you try to straighten her, you will break her and breaking a woman means divorcing her.' (Sahih Muslim, V1, P475, Afghanistan) The excellence of being gentleness towards wife   We therefore realise that some of her habits will be disliked by the husband but nevertheless, the husband should always remain patient and tolerant. The Holy Prophet  said, 'Amongst the true believers is he who possesses a praiseworthy character and is gentle with his wife.' (Jami' Tirmidhi, Hadith 2621, V4, P278, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) Low level of unmanliness Dear Islamic Brothers! Those people should ponder over this blessed Hadith who are abusive to their wives not only verbally but physically. To demonstrate your power over someone who is naturally weaker than you is not masculinity, it is in fact unmanliness of the lowest level. If the woman forgetfully makes a mistake, her husband should be lenient. If she is persistent in making mistakes, the husband should still remain patient and tolerant. The merciful Prophet, intercessor of Ummah, the Beloved of Allah  said, 'A Muslim male can never have enmity for a Muslim female. He may dislike one habit in her but may find another in her which is pleasing.' (Sahih Muslim, V1, P475, Afghanistan) Dear Islamic Brothers! With the blessings of travelling regularly in the Madani Qafilay every month and by filling in your Madani In'aamaat card and handing it in to the zimadaar of Dawat-e-Islami every month. In'shaa-Allah  for the sake of the Beloved , domestic problems and arguments will disappear. Instead, mutual understanding and love will develop and your home will be filled with happiness and joy and through the blessing of this, your family will be blessed with a sight of beautiful Madina – In'shaa-Allah . Rights of the husband The wife should also treat her husband in a good manner. The Holy Prophet  said, 'By Allah , in whose power is my soul, if a husband was wounded from head to toe and pus and (pus-filled) blood is flowing from each wound, if the wife licks it, she would still not have offered her husband's rights.' (Musnad Imaam Ahmad, Hadith 12614, V4, P318, Dar-ul-Fikr Beirut) Do not leave the home of a cruel husband Those women who frequently fall out with their husbands over small matters and go to their parent's home should listen carefully and repeat to themselves the following blessed Hadith. The Holy Prophet  said, 'And the wife must not leave the house of her husband without his permission. If she does so, until she does not make repent, Allah  and his (innocent) angels send curse upon her.' Someone asked, 'Even if the husband is cruel?' The Holy Prophet  replied, 'Even if he is cruel.' (Kanzul-Ummal, Hadith 44801, V16, P114, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut)

Reason for why there will be more women in Hell Some women are extremely disobedient and ungrateful of their husbands. If they are offended even slightly, they forget all the previous kindnesses and favours and start rebelling against their husbands. Those women who often curse and annoy their husbands should become afraid because once, the Messenger of Allah was going to the Eid-gah on Eid day. He  passed by some women and said, 'Oh women! Give charity as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell were women.' The women asked, 'Ya Rasool-Allah ! What is the reason for this?' The Messenger of Allah replied, 'You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands.' (Sahih Bukhari, Hadith 304, V1, P123, Dar-ul-Kutubul Ilmiyyah Beirut) The rights of neighbours Dear Islamic Brothers! Everyone should treat their neighbours nicely and with respect unless there is a valid Shari' reason. Once, a person came in the presence of the Holy Prophet and asked, 'Ya Rasool-Allah! How will I know if I have performed something right or wrong?' The Holy Prophet  replied, 'When you hear your neighbours say that you have performed right, indeed you have performed right and when you hear them say that you have performed wrong, indeed you have performed wrong.'(Sunan Ibn-e-Maja, Hadith 4223, V4, P479, Dar-ul-Ma'rifa Beirut) Highest certificate Allahu-Akbar ! What great importance the neighbours hold that your ‘character certificate' is issued through them. Unfortunately, today, the neighbour's immense importance is not considered. With the blessings of travelling in the Madani Qafila every month and filling in your Madani In'aamaat every month and handing it in to your area zimadaar, In'shaa-Allah , for the sake of the Beloved , the importance of the neighbours will develop inside your hearts, you will develop a mindset of respecting them and In'shaa-Allah , your local area will become a garden of Madina.